A father said to a son:
“The reason man sees life as binary structured: (all things are: right or wrong;
good or evil; true or false) is because his mind is T.P.B.  --  Third Possibility Blind;
not being able to conceive of a third view in every human situation is what causes
all of the contention inherent in every human situation.
But what is going on is much more subtle, and wrap-around simple than this  --
more subtle than any words can say;
so subtle, simple, and yet strange  --
that man has never invented any words to describe it;
he has never thought about needing words to describe the situation
because his mind is incapable of directly thinking about it  --
and get ready  --  here it comes!  --
and its strangeness is so subtle that even when it is laid out simply,
and your natural born mind looks right at it  --  it is still programmed to miss the point;
the mind can look at it  --
can say that it sees what is being noted –
then instantly forget the whole affair,
(and here it is).

Let us use as an example from the endless ones that make up man’s purely
human existence (all of his interests that are non essential to survival):
the ever present idea of  --  change.
Once men are fed and have the free time to create and pursue activities
that are merely entertaining rather than essential
(the core of them always being verbal)
a major topic is the subject of change.
There is an urge inherent in man’s nervous system to change;
every human says they want to change this-or-that about their self,
but man’s nervous system by its nature has no desire to change
(with an interested eye this is easy enough to observe outside of yourself,
and equally as ready realized when you look inward at your own temperament)
so here is the quite open and obvious situation:
by their nature: all men say they want to change,
and by their nature, no one wants to change,
and from any ordinary, rational view  --  this can’t be so;
the mind says: ‘You either want to change, or you do not want to change:
it has to be one or the other’  --  which totally ignores a third possibility:
another possibility that is always present in every purely human (that is: non essential) situation, which is precisely what I have already stated:
    man’s nature makes him say he wants to change,
    and man’s nature has no desire to change,
(and here is another example of T.P.B.): men know this, and they don’t know this,
which the natural born mind would again insist cannot be so;
it would say: ‘You either know something, or you do not,’
but in isolated examples men routinely acknowledge the situation I have noted:
in speaking of a heavy drinking acquaintance who continually swears that
he wants to change (that is: quit drinking) men are commonly heard to say:
‘Yeah, every time Bob gets in trouble over his drinking, he says he’s going to stop,
he’s said so a thousand times, but you know what: he doesn't really want to stop:
he says he does, but I don’t believe he truly means it;
in fact I don’t think most drunks who say they want to stop actually want to,’
(and same with many other everyday matters
such as so called: psychological quirks, and sinful behavior).
Men constantly make passing note that even though people say they want to change (stop drinking; being unfaithful; over eating; being depressed, angry, or obsessive), they commonly do not believe that people really do  --  and there it is!  --
just for a second: the full awareness of the situation to which I point:
their mind makes a momentary acknowledgement that men are driven by their nature to say they want to change this-or-that thing about their self,
and in the next breath they say they do not believe it  --
but the ordinary born mind of man is incapable of seeing these two matters simultaneously  (or at least from a personal perspective that profits them
[since their aim is not to shake their mind from its natural lethargy,
and get to the actual bottom of things]).

Do you hear what I am describing, my boy:
every human who is not starving is aware that he and every other human
wants to change,
and yet is also aware that neither he nor apparently anyone else
has the least interest in changing:
there it is  --  yet no one can see it:
it’s the way things are.

The mind by its nature on the essential, non verbal level approaches life
as a binary structure: you either live or die;
you either get food or starve: find water or die; seek shelter or suffer;
the ultimate binary game on the physical level is life or death,
a situation which clearly motivates all life forms to the peak of efficiency;
and the mind seamlessly carries over this approach when it shifts to matters
non essential (religion, politics, gossip, movies, music, sports, literature,
and all other activities whose reality is totally dependent on words;
reminding you for instance that movies are not the celluloid film on which they are printed; nor sports, the physical activity on a field; nor literature, the words in a book;  the reality of all such things is in the thoughts they incite
in the minds of their audience).
People do not go to the movies to see the movie up on the screen,
but for the thoughts it will prompt in their own head,
but the natural programming of the mind is such that it ignores any question concerning the profitable propriety of talking about/thinking about these
word-based activities as binary constructs:
(‘Such-&-such book is either a masterpiece, or it is not;’
‘The ’57 Yankees was the greatest team ever, or it was not;’
‘You are either a Christian/Jew/Muslim/Buddhist and thus favored by god,
or you are not, and thus doomed,’ and so on).
Mentally and verbally treating an incorporeal realm in the same way you do the physical one is obviously the norm for man, and the contentions this spurs are undoubtedly what life wants, so it cannot be said to be of harm to man (in general),
but for the few like us my son, this is like a secret fireworks factory ready to blow
(and to your advantage  --  if you learn how to ignite it).

Every thing man talks and thinks about, and seems to participate in which is not an essential matter of life or death his mind sees as a binary structure or game;
every question, every dispute, every confusion that plagues man arises from his thinking being unable to see that in all such affairs there is always something else  --
always another possibility  --
a third one besides the two which are always visible to his mind,
and which, if it was seen, would reveal the reality of the situation.
Such a realization is quite obviously not needed by collective humanity (as I noted):
they constantly, for brief moments in specific situations, give overt acknowledgement to the indisputable reality that humans say they want to change,
yet humans do not want to change:
everyone says they do  --  no one wants to (and remember: the idea of ‘change’
being locked into a blinding, binary structure is but one of an infinite number of examples from everyday human affairs I could have used).

As a tool of astounding keenness and efficiency, there could be none better than
the approach: ‘There is always something else;’
no matter how impressive, or copious be the thoughts on a subject from another man, nor from your own automatic mind  --
there is always something else: always a third possibility;
there are no exceptions to this, and the complete pursuit of this five word notion
would perforce shake an interested man’s mind out of its natural born dreamy,
and distracted state.

To: ‘be asleep’ (as ‘tis often called) is to mentally live in a binary world:
that’s it  --
that’s what being unenlightened, asleep, and in-captivity is;
your thoughts dwell (quite satisfactorily for an ordinary life)
in a two dimensional reality --
whereas there is clearly a third perspective to this inner constructed scene,
and a continual remembrance of this and the accompanying attempt to see
the third possibility (which is constantly fluid)
IS the struggle to awaken; to achieve enlightenment; to experience the great liberation (or as I call it); to realize what is really going on,
and what is NOT really going on is a life composed of contrary binaries.

The always present third possibility is like a gigantic invisible creature astride this planet which everyone knows is here, but no one can name; this came about from Adam naming all of the animals after he heard the voice in his head telling him
to do so  --  which kept him from naming the voice  --  and  that's what is missing.